I do love you, I promise!
Can we just talk about something I'm super anxious and terrible at? Gifts. I'm super awkward when receiving them, and I'm even worse at giving them. When I took the Five Love Languages Quiz, I scored 0 (multiple times) on Gifts. It's not that I don't appreciate when people give me great gifts, I just don't know what the protocol is for when you open/receive it. Do you tear up? Do you smile? Do you hug their neck? Do you cry? Do you thank them profusely? What the heck do you do?! Just writing about it makes me anxious.
And, OH MAN, when I have to give a gift? Torture. For the last third of each year, I fret over what to get my family for Christmas. I just want them to like my gift! I'm all about practicality, so I always am drawn to practical gifts. If I see a person has holes in their socks, I would get them a pack of Hanes socks (which is a gift I would love, although right now I have plenty of socks). I don't want to get them something they won't use, it would be a waste of my money and would be adding clutter to their life. But, apparently, a pack of plain socks isn't an appropriate gift, fine.
I have even considered not going to parties/shower of dear friends because there'll be gifts involved and I get nervous that everyone will compare my gift to their super awesome one. I'd rather give it them in private.
I'm not even good with the presentation of the gift. I don't understand the tissue paper, it seems like it's not the best for the environment, so I never have any in the gifts I give. I'm one of the worst gift wrappers you will ever meet. Seriously, I'm always embarrassed when I have to wrap stuff and give it to people (besides my family, who understands my incapability of wrapping) because I'm convinced they're gonna make fun of it. I actually avoid wrapping at all costs and am quick to toss the gift in a gift bag sans tissue paper. And what about those cards? I don't think the environment thanks us for those either. I can't stand cards, I like what's in them, but I will not keep them. So don't be offended if you see your card to me in the trash/recycling; I read it, then I recycled it.
I even suck at gift registries, especially baby ones. How the heck am I supposed to find such specific brand/size/shape/whatever of bottle nipples when there are aisles upon aisles of those dumb things?! I'm not a mom and I've never been married, so I don't know how to buy baby and marriage paraphernalia.
All I'm say is: if I get you a terrible gift/no card/no gift, please don't think I hate you. I do love you, I'm just not very good at expressing it through gifts. And if you give me a gift (especially out of the blue...actually don't do that), please look the other way at my inappropriate response; I appreciate the thought, I just don't know how to respond. I do love you, I promise.
And, OH MAN, when I have to give a gift? Torture. For the last third of each year, I fret over what to get my family for Christmas. I just want them to like my gift! I'm all about practicality, so I always am drawn to practical gifts. If I see a person has holes in their socks, I would get them a pack of Hanes socks (which is a gift I would love, although right now I have plenty of socks). I don't want to get them something they won't use, it would be a waste of my money and would be adding clutter to their life. But, apparently, a pack of plain socks isn't an appropriate gift, fine.
I have even considered not going to parties/shower of dear friends because there'll be gifts involved and I get nervous that everyone will compare my gift to their super awesome one. I'd rather give it them in private.
I'm not even good with the presentation of the gift. I don't understand the tissue paper, it seems like it's not the best for the environment, so I never have any in the gifts I give. I'm one of the worst gift wrappers you will ever meet. Seriously, I'm always embarrassed when I have to wrap stuff and give it to people (besides my family, who understands my incapability of wrapping) because I'm convinced they're gonna make fun of it. I actually avoid wrapping at all costs and am quick to toss the gift in a gift bag sans tissue paper. And what about those cards? I don't think the environment thanks us for those either. I can't stand cards, I like what's in them, but I will not keep them. So don't be offended if you see your card to me in the trash/recycling; I read it, then I recycled it.
I even suck at gift registries, especially baby ones. How the heck am I supposed to find such specific brand/size/shape/whatever of bottle nipples when there are aisles upon aisles of those dumb things?! I'm not a mom and I've never been married, so I don't know how to buy baby and marriage paraphernalia.
All I'm say is: if I get you a terrible gift/no card/no gift, please don't think I hate you. I do love you, I'm just not very good at expressing it through gifts. And if you give me a gift (especially out of the blue...actually don't do that), please look the other way at my inappropriate response; I appreciate the thought, I just don't know how to respond. I do love you, I promise.
Remind me of this when my bridal shower/wedding comes around and you give me a price, and I'll tell you what to get me, and you don't have to wrap it or give it to me in front of other people. Deal? =)
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